Marriage Training Principles
This is a work-in-progress. This article will be updated intermittently.
- Confidence and Self Esteem: You need to be confident with the decisions you make and not be swayed by the negative comments of others, or chances are you will take a back seat in the journey of your life and let others make important decisions for you. If you don't go into your marriage with a high self esteem, you will end up second guessing your decisions and berating yourself when things go wrong.
- Self Care: Learning to beautify oneself for your husband; hair, nails, clothes. Learning how to relax - you don't know what it means to be tired right now! :) Do things that wind you down - have a bubble bath, connect with nature by going for a walk in the park.
- Home-making skills: Learn how to manage your time effectively, start practicing how to cook, and learn how to clean so it doesn't take over your whole life.
- Start to respect and look at other people's perspective: Once you get married, it's not going to be all about what you think! :) How do you react when you have to deal with a conflict of interest?
- Anger management: How do you deal with conflict? How do you react when someone makes you angry? How do you react when your under stress (e.g. exams, work related audits) and you're not feeling well? Do you become a witch during your monthly periods? Now is the time to start to control your anger! An aching back due to housework, crying kids, lack of sleep, period pains, in-law problems and an overly happy husband are a recipe for disaster if you don't know how to manage your anger! :)
- Boundaries and limitations: How do you react when someone oversteps your boundaries? Do you know how to remain composed and unswayed in the event of being persuaded to do something you don't want to do? Have you been taught by your parents to do whatever they say and be overly obedient whether it's morally/religiously correct or not? If you don't understand how to manage your boundaries and limitation, chances are high that you will get walked over when you get married. ("If you act like jelly, people will squish their hands inside just because it feels nice, for no other reason" - Dr Laura).